Getting harassed inside your own apartment? #NopeDC

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Location: 12th Street NW between Mass and M
Time: Daytime (9:30am-3:30pm)

I was in my apartment and taking something out of the oven. A fire truck was outside my apartment building since the fire alarm had been going off for an hour or so. Two firemen had been in the ladder which had been extended to the roof. As I was taking the food out of the oven, I heard, “Show me more, show me more!!” I looked over and a white fireman in the ladder was at my apartment windows level. He had a smirk and was giving me the thumbs up sign. My top was hanging a bit loose over my chest as I was reaching down to the oven and I realized he could see.

When I tried to pull the blinds down he yelled, “No pull it up show me more show me more.” When I finally was able to lower the blinds, he said don’t worry I’ll get a view from below.”

I asked to speak to the captain, who was patronizing and said I’ve known this guy for 30 years, he would never do that. He tried to say he was seeing if there was smoke — they firemen had already been to apartments to check if there was smoke. If he was really concerned, he could have asked, is there a fire in your apartment, is there smoke?

Submitted 5/20/17 by “PN”

Do you have a personal experience with gender-based public sexual harassment or assault? Share your story to help raise awareness about the pervasiveness and harmful effects of street harassment. All submissions are posted anonymously unless otherwise specified.

If you experience or have experienced sexual harassment on the DC Metro system: Whether the event is happening at the moment or occurred months ago, we strongly encourage you to report to Metro Transit Police (MTP): www.wmata.com/harassment or 202-962-2121. Reporting helps identify suspects as well as commons trends in harassment. You can program MTP’s number into your phone so you can easily reach them when needed.

If you need assistance in coping with public sexual harassment or assault, please contact the DC Rape Crisis Center (DCRCC) 24/7 crisis hotline at 202-333-RAPE (202-333-7279).

“He started calling me hateful things..”

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Location: 7800 block of Eastern Avenue (Silver Spring side)
Time: Evening Rush Hour (3:30pm-7:30pm)

I was walking home from the bus stop about an hour ago and passed a man who looked at me and said “bitch-ass n*gga.” I was shocked and confused and repeated what he said in a state of said shock and confusion,” though “n*gga” is not a word in my everyday vocabulary. (Both this man and I are black.) He then started yelling, accusing me of calling him names, stating that he was saying that hateful phrase to someone else (no one else was in our close vicinity, but even so it doesn’t make it right) though I said I was repeating what he randomly said to me and not calling him names. I should’ve been the one asking why he was calling me names.

He then gets close to me, starts yelling and calling me a “stank-ass bitch,” “ugly bitch,” and other hateful things with the word “bitch” in it while spit was flying out of his mouth.

I put my hands up in the stop position like I’ve learned in self-defense class and told him to back away from me or I’d call the police. He started to walk away but still acted like he wanted to come back and physically threaten me, so I walked away, yelling “It’s not worth it…IT’S NOT WORTH IT!”

It was not worth my time and energy to get into it with someone who was senselessly lashing out at me for no reason. As I continued up the street, a man and woman (both also black) said they heard what was going on and that the man had gotten into it with them too. The man of the duo said, “He yelled at me too…and I’m in a wheelchair!” I told the two that it was not worth it for me to continuing arguing with that guy so I chose to walk away. I apologized that they had to deal with that man too and I wished them a good day. Had it not been for the interaction with the pair at the bus stop afterward, I probably would’ve continued home stewing in anger.

While it was disappointing that we commiserated at being recipients of this man’s misdirected anger, it was good to know that I wasn’t alone and that what had happened was not my fault.

Submitted 5/13/17 by “Anonymous”

Do you have a personal experience with gender-based public sexual harassment or assault? Share your story to help raise awareness about the pervasiveness and harmful effects of street harassment. All submissions are posted anonymously unless otherwise specified.

If you experience or have experienced sexual harassment on the DC Metro system: Whether the event is happening at the moment or occurred months ago, we strongly encourage you to report to Metro Transit Police (MTP): www.wmata.com/harassment or 202-962-2121. Reporting helps identify suspects as well as commons trends in harassment. You can program MTP’s number into your phone so you can easily reach them when needed.

If you need assistance in coping with public sexual harassment or assault, please contact the DC Rape Crisis Center (DCRCC) 24/7 crisis hotline at 202-333-RAPE (202-333-7279).

“Even the people who are hired to protect us can be the ones harassing us.”

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Location: Chinatown, near McDonald’s on 7th Street NW
Time: Daytime (9:30am-3:30pm)

Today, during my lunch break, I was walking back to my office from Washington Sports Club in Chinatown. I noticed a man and woman walking towards each other, and the man seemed to be saying something to the woman. I realized that he was a security guard (from the patch on his jacket, though I’m not sure where he was supposed to be working), and then I realized that he was leering at her and making comments. He was looking her up and down, saying things like “how you doin”, to which she mumbled something and opened the door to McDonald’s. Even when he’d passed her and was several feet away, he was still turning around and staring at her. It was really disgusting and I may have called him a name in response to it.

It made me realize that even the people who are hired to protect us can be the ones harassing us. I was worried for the woman and then worried for myself once I spoke up towards him.

Luckily he didn’t react to me and kept on his way. But again, what do we do when people in authority positions harass us?

Submitted 3/21/17 by “M.G.”

Do you have a personal experience with gender-based public sexual harassment or assault? Share your story to help raise awareness about the pervasiveness and harmful effects of street harassment. All submissions are posted anonymously unless otherwise specified.

If you experience or have experienced sexual harassment on the DC Metro system: Whether the event is happening at the moment or occurred months ago, we strongly encourage you to report to Metro Transit Police (MTP): www.wmata.com/harassment or 202-962-2121. Reporting helps identify suspects as well as commons trends in harassment. You can program MTP’s number into your phone so you can easily reach them when needed.

If you need assistance in coping with public sexual harassment or assault, please contact the DC Rape Crisis Center (DCRCC) 24/7 crisis hotline at 202-333-RAPE (202-333-7279).

“It did not feel like a safe space.”

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Location: H Street NE
Time: Night (7:30pm-12am)

My girlfriend and I were asked to leave Little Miss Whiskey’s by the owner for kissing in the bar last night. 

I’m not sure it was explicitly homophobic, but it was pretty uncomfortable to be told that we weren’t welcome and should “get a room, or do that where folks shouldn’t have to see.” We weren’t being overtly sexual and neither of us were super drunk or anything.

It did not feel like a safe space.

Submitted 3/19/17 by “Anonymous”

Do you have a personal experience with gender-based public sexual harassment or assault? Share your story to help raise awareness about the pervasiveness and harmful effects of street harassment. All submissions are posted anonymously unless otherwise specified.

If you experience or have experienced sexual harassment on the DC Metro system: Whether the event is happening at the moment or occurred months ago, we strongly encourage you to report to Metro Transit Police (MTP): www.wmata.com/harassment or 202-962-2121. Reporting helps identify suspects as well as commons trends in harassment. You can program MTP’s number into your phone so you can easily reach them when needed.

If you need assistance in coping with public sexual harassment or assault, please contact the DC Rape Crisis Center (DCRCC) 24/7 crisis hotline at 202-333-RAPE (202-333-7279).

When a Fun Night Out Includes Active Bystander Intervention

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Time: Night (7:30pm-12am)

So, I had a blast dancing with friends last night!

But part of the night involved being an active bystander regarding some…very…persistent gentlemen that were trying to engage female friends that we were out with, who were not trying to engage them.

And while I and some of the other guys in our group did some of the regular circling the wagons space sharing to become physical barriers between our friends and strangers, when them turning their backs and/or moving away wasn’t enough of a message via body language, or even straight up telling them that they didn’t want to engage, I asked my friends for permission to say something to some of their would-be suitors, and wanted to share several of those things.

To one guy who was standing a foot or two behind one friend I told him that I didn’t know if he was doing it intentionally, but I needed him to stop staring at my friends because it was making us uncomfortable. He went away.

To another gent who cut in the circle between me and a friend, he introduced himself to her, after which I tapped him and introduced myself to him, saying my name was JR and I was her friend. I guess he didn’t really want to talk and he went away.

A third person, after lurking and several passes and attempts of talking to one friend, after she stepped away yet again after he grabbed her, I stepped up to him and said that I needed him to not touch or talk to her again for the rest of the night. He went away.

Granted there were many more instances when my friends dealt with things themselves, but I’d least try to check in to make sure that they were okay after. And I want to reiterate that the few times I did say something, I’d try to ask them for permission first, because I never thought that they needed or wanted me to intervene, but simply wanted to see if they at least wouldn’t mind if I did.

So I just wanted to share.

Submitted 3/20/17 by “JR”

Do you have a personal experience with gender-based public sexual harassment or assault? Share your story to help raise awareness about the pervasiveness and harmful effects of street harassment. All submissions are posted anonymously unless otherwise specified.

If you experience or have experienced sexual harassment on the DC Metro system: Whether the event is happening at the moment or occurred months ago, we strongly encourage you to report to Metro Transit Police (MTP): www.wmata.com/harassment or 202-962-2121. Reporting helps identify suspects as well as commons trends in harassment. You can program MTP’s number into your phone so you can easily reach them when needed.

If you need assistance in coping with public sexual harassment or assault, please contact the DC Rape Crisis Center (DCRCC) 24/7 crisis hotline at 202-333-RAPE (202-333-7279).

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