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Location: Carroll Ave and Flower Ave
Time: Daytime (9:30am-3:30pm)

I heard someone running up behind me, could hear his breath, I turned around just as he glommed onto the back of my body, pressing himself into me. I whipped around and yelled EXCUSE ME! I glared with at him with evil eyes and told him he needed to leave now, and he sort of sheepishly slunk across the street.

Submitted 6/8/17 by “AP”

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Standing Up to Street Harassment in Takoma Park: “You can compliment me by respecting me!”

Street harassment is not a compliment!
Street harassment is not a compliment! Image via http://wechalkwalk.tumblr.com/

Location: Takoma Park, MD
Time: Night (7:30pm-12am)

I love walking around on summer nights. I really enjoy this in Takoma Park, where my girlfriend lives, because I feel safer there than in my neighborhood of Columbia Heights. This week, I was walking to her house when a man leaned out his car window and shouted “Damn girl you look good” at me.

I was pulled out of the happy thoughts I was having and flooded with disappointment and anger. I walked a few more steps, then realized as he was sitting at the red light I could respond if I wanted. So I walked back. “I do respond to ‘good evening,'” I yelled across the street to him. “Oh, well, good evening,” he responded. I began to feel a little better but then he added “you still look damn good though.”

The point wasn’t to talk to me or have a nice human interaction. The point of him yelling at me was to degrade me, as he proved by getting “the last word.”

Emphases by CASS.
Submitted 7/26/13 by “EM.”


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Pedestrian Crossing

I was walking hope around 1pm on Saturday. As I was crossing 14th street, a car barreled through the pedestrian crossing right in front of me. It really bothers me when drivers disobey the rules of the road – so I signaled to the sign and said to the driver ‘this is a pedestrian crossing!’

There was a man walking towards me on the other side of the street. He looked older than a teenager, but definitely younger than me (say 21). He said “Why you so angry?” I just kept walking, because I was so incensed by him. But he kept talking “Its a beautiful day. You’re beautiful. Why you look so bad?”

I’m sure there are people (idiots) out there who would say, oh what a compliment. But this guy did not know me from Adam. Plus I am several years older than him. It is extremely condescending for a random man on the street to start telling me what to do because I’m female. If I had been a middle-aged man, you bet he would not have said anything. But because I’m a young-looking female, he felt entitled to scold me for being upset.

Whenever a man tells me to ‘smile’ on the street, I want to respond with “Say no to drugs.” That message is as insulting, presumptious and inappropriate as telling a woman you don’t know to smile. I could be coming from a stressful job, or thinking about a situation with a family member. But all that doesn’t matter because I’m female aren’t I? And wasn’t I born to smile for random shitheads on the street?

Submitted by Anonymous

Location: Upper 14th street, near Takoma

Time of harassment:  Day Time (9:30A-3:30P)

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“You know, we could have a Ménage à trois.”

posted in: Takoma | 0

As I was waiting for the train to head downtown, a man approached me and asked me for my name. I told him, and he responded “that’s nice.”

The man, who was smoking weed at the time, didn’t seem to be going anywhere, so I asked him if I could help him with something. He asked me if I had a boyfriend, and I told him yes, hoping he’d leave me alone. That didn’t work. “That’s too bad,” he said. “So we can’t be friends.” I tried to be polite, and said “No, I’m alright.” He then said, “Your boyfriend probably wouldn’t like that, would he?” I chose to ignore him.

Then, the kicker: “You know, we could have a Ménage à trois.” At that point, I walked as far down the platform as possible until the train arrived, all with the individual following me until I boarded a train car.

Submitted by JS on 3/10/2011

Location: Takoma Metro Station

Time of harassment: Morning Rush Hour (5A-9:30A)

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I’m Allowed To Be Angry!

posted in: Takoma | 5
Photo by Matt Seppings via Flickr

I was walking hope around 1pm on saturday. As I was crossing 14th street, a car barreled through the pedestrian crossing right in front of me. It really bothers me when drivers disobey the rules of the road – so I signaled to the sign and said to the driver ‘this is a pedestrian crossing!’ There was a man walking towards me on the other side of the street. He looked older than a teenager, but definitely younger than me (say 21). He said “Why you so angry?” I just kept walking, because I was so incensed by him. But he kept talking “Its a beautiful day. You’re beautiful. Why you look so bad?” I’m sure there are people (idiots) out there who would say, oh what a compliment. But this guy did not know me from Adam. Plus I am several years older than him. It is extremely condescending for a random man on the street to start telling me what to do because I’m female. If I had been a middle-aged man, you bet he would not have said anything. But because I’m a young-looking black female, he felt entitled to scold me for being upset. Whenever a man tells me to ‘smile’ on the street, I want to respond with “Say no to drugs.” That message is as insulting, presumptious and inappropriate as telling a woman you don’t know to smile. I could be coming from a stressful job, or thinking about a situation with a family member. But all that doesn’t matter because I’m female aren’t I? And wasn’t I born to smile for random shitheads on the street?

Submitted by Woman Allowed to Be Angry on 6/28/2010

Location: Upper 14th street, near Takoma

Time of Harassment: Day Time (9:30A-3:30P)

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