Bouncer Steps in at Nellie’s.

Location: 9th & U in front of Nellie’s
Time: Late Night (12am-5am)

I was on 9th St NW and stopped in front of Nellie’s to call a car. A man exited Nellie’s and bumped into me, knocking me off my balance. I told him assertively not to touch me and he became angry, he yelled ‘don’t touch me’ back at me and walked a few feet away to his group of friends. I then heard him loudly comment to them that I “looked like a fucking dyke.” I responded that I was queer but it was a slur for him to address me that way. At that moment, a bouncer stepped in and told him that he needed to leave and never come back to Nellie’s. He denied the whole incident and she reiterated that she had witnessed it and that he needed to leave. I thanked her and then left as my car arrived.

I want to specifically shout out the awesome bouncer who did not hesitate to step in and stand up for me against harassment. She didn’t question my account or ask us both to leave, she called out his behavior and told him in no uncertain terms that it was not acceptable in that space. She definitely made me feel safer in a moment when I was upset.

Submitted 7/11/17 by “KS”

Do you have a personal experience with harassment or assault? Share your story to help raise awareness about the pervasiveness and harmful effects of street harassment. All submissions are posted anonymously unless otherwise specified.

If you experience or have experienced sexual harassment on the DC Metro system: Whether the event is happening at the moment or occurred months ago, we strongly encourage you to report to Metro Transit Police (MTP): www.wmata.com/harassment or 202-962-2121. Reporting helps identify suspects as well as commons trends in harassment. You can program MTP’s number into your phone so you can easily reach them when needed.

If you need assistance in coping with public sexual harassment or assault, please contact the DC Rape Crisis Center (DCRCC) 24/7 crisis hotline at 202-333-RAPE (202-333-7279).

He asked if I’m “from here” and demanded to see my ID.

Location: 7th and P, playground

Time: Evening Rush Hour (3:30pm-7:30pm)

I was walking into the park with my three-year-old, and I kneeled down to talk to him. A man stopped, put his hands on the gate, and stared at us. I looked back at him, and I asked him why he was staring at us. He asked me if I’m “from here” and demanded to see my ID. I was confused at first by what he even meant. I told him that I didn’t need to show him ID, and he insisted that I did. I told him that he was making me uncomfortable and that he should leave the park if he wasn’t with a child. We walked away, and he did, too. A man sitting on a bench asked us if we were OK. I stayed at the park for another hour after that, but I was shaken. I kept thinking he might come back with a weapon. I’m still so shaken and confused.

Submitted 6/1/17 by “JR”

Do you have a personal experience with gender-based public sexual harassment or assault? Share your story to help raise awareness about the pervasiveness and harmful effects of street harassment. All submissions are posted anonymously unless otherwise specified.

If you experience or have experienced sexual harassment on the DC Metro system: Whether the event is happening at the moment or occurred months ago, we strongly encourage you to report to Metro Transit Police (MTP): www.wmata.com/harassment or (202) 962-2121. Reporting helps identify suspects as well as commons trends in harassment. You can program MTP’s number into your phone so you can easily reach them when needed.

If you need assistance in coping with public sexual harassment or assault, please contact the DC Rape Crisis Center (DCRCC) 24/7 crisis hotline at 202-333-RAPE (202-333-7279).

Safe Bars in Action

We love this story about a bystander intervention at the 801 bar! If you witness a positive bystander intervention, we’d love to hear about it! Share it with us at info[at]collectiveactiondc[dot]org.

A couple weeks ago I was at 801 when a somewhat drunk male patron who I was making friendly conversation with went to reach for something at the bar and put his hand on my stomach and pushed me out of the way. He did not push me hard, but more as to move me out of the way. The bartender witnessed this and said “Hey, you should not touch a woman like that. You need to leave.” Although I explained to the bartender that I was fine, I thanked him for looking out for the women in the bar. He said that he had witnessed this same person do a similar thing to another woman. I really appreciated that he called the patron out. The patron was surprised but also apologetic and hopefully it kept him from touching other women that night.

I noticed that 801 is a bar that is a “safe bar” and if the training you provide is what caused this bartender to speak up on behalf of women and call this patron out, then I wanted to say THANKS! 

Click here to learn more about the Safe Bars program — and for a list of the 20 DC bars that have been trained!

“He shouted ‘Are you just going to ignore me?'”

Location: 7th Street and S St NW
Time:  Daytime (9:30am-3:30pm)

I noticed a cab driver shouting and honking at me when I was passing Shaw Library on 7th Street NW. I walked on 7th St toward Uprising Muffins on S Street, and he continued to sexually harass me, but I was heading in the opposite direction, so I thought I would be able to get away from him without responding. He turned his car around, followed me on 7th St NW, and stopped the car on 7th St and S. He then shouted “Are you just going to ignore me?” and repeatedly told me to get in the car and asked if I needed a ride. I repeatedly told him that I did not want or need a ride and asked, “Was that seriously your plan in following me here?” Then he said: “That’s my job.” I explained to him that his job is to respond to requests for rides, not to follow and harass women on the street in an attempt to force rides upon us. I reported the incident to the DC Department of For-Hire Vehicles and the DC Office of Human Rights. Perhaps further training will help DC cab drivers better understand their job responsibilities and stop engaging in gender-based harassment.

Submitted 7/19/16 by “JR”

Do you have a personal experience with gender-based public sexual harassment or assault? Share your story to help raise awareness about the pervasiveness and harmful effects of street harassment. All submissions are posted anonymously unless otherwise specified.

If you experience or have experienced sexual harassment on the DC Metro system: Whether the event is happening at the moment or occurred months ago, we strongly encourage you to report to Metro Transit Police (MTP): www.wmata.com/harassment or 202-962-2121. Reporting helps identify suspects as well as commons trends in harassment. You can program MTP’s number into your phone so you can easily reach them when needed.

If you need assistance in coping with public sexual harassment or assault, please contact the DC Rape Crisis Center (DCRCC) 24/7 crisis hotline at 202-333-RAPE (202-333-7279).

“He followed me down the street two blocks.”

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Location: 5th & O NW
Time: Morning Rush Hour (5am-9:30am)

A guy yelled from his car while he followed me down the street two blocks about how tight my jeans were and how good looking at me made him feel.

Submitted 7/16/16 by “MW”

Do you have a personal experience with gender-based public sexual harassment or assault? Share your story to help raise awareness about the pervasiveness and harmful effects of street harassment. All submissions are posted anonymously unless otherwise specified.

If you experience or have experienced sexual harassment on the DC Metro system: Whether the event is happening at the moment or occurred months ago, we strongly encourage you to report to Metro Transit Police (MTP): www.wmata.com/harassment or 202-962-2121. Reporting helps identify suspects as well as commons trends in harassment. You can program MTP’s number into your phone so you can easily reach them when needed.

If you need assistance in coping with public sexual harassment or assault, please contact the DC Rape Crisis Center (DCRCC) 24/7 crisis hotline at 202-333-RAPE (202-333-7279).

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