“It did not feel like a safe space.”

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Location: H Street NE
Time: Night (7:30pm-12am)

My girlfriend and I were asked to leave Little Miss Whiskey’s by the owner for kissing in the bar last night. 

I’m not sure it was explicitly homophobic, but it was pretty uncomfortable to be told that we weren’t welcome and should “get a room, or do that where folks shouldn’t have to see.” We weren’t being overtly sexual and neither of us were super drunk or anything.

It did not feel like a safe space.

Submitted 3/19/17 by “Anonymous”

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“What Do You Do When a Guy at a Bar Will NOT Take ‘No’ for an Answer?”

Location: Bar in NE, DC
Time: Late Night (12am-5am)

I know this is an unremarkable scenario, but bothersome nonetheless. On New Year’s Eve, I was at a bar along with some friends, dancing on and off to the live DJ music. As inevitably happens, a man came up to me during one of my breaks to invite me to dance – he didn’t say anything, merely holding out his hand. I declined with words – “no, thank you” – and looked away. Nothing noteworthy, except that – you guessed it! – he wouldn’t take no for an answer. He stood there, gesturing again, as I repeatedly demurred. Then he disappeared on the dance floor. When I resumed dancing, I could feel him staring at me intently, and then of course, he asked again. Understandable, but once more I declined.

Finally, as I was standing around in my coat waiting for my friends to leave, he appeared again. I explained that I was about to leave, but he insisted, over and over, even trying to grab my hand though I pointedly looked away from him. He desisted just as I was about to irritatedly snap at him.

In total, I had to rebuff him about five times, and while to most (especially the average male) this might seem like a harmless scenario, it isn’t: having my explicit refusal repeatedly ignored mirrors the harassment dynamic, and puts the woman in the position of either appearing rude or giving in to the guy’s pressure to get it over and done with. And of course, when he finally did dance with a woman, he engineered it as a “couples dance,” one arm around her waist, the other holding her other hand.

Is there a foolproof way to send a creepy, clueless man such as this one on his way? Because the repetitive verbal dance of “NO” is damn boring.

Submitted 1/06/14 by “Claire”

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“I Wish These Men Would Keep Their Ignorant Thoughts to Themselves.”

Location: Wiseguys Pizza (4th & H Streets NW) and McPherson Square
Time: Daytime (9:30am-3:30pm)

I have two stories to share. Last Monday, October 20th, I was walking to Walmart during my lunch break, and a man was sitting outside of Wiseguys at 4th and H Streets NW. He started staring at me as if he’d never seen a woman before and I knew he was going to say something. I was correct. When these men telegraph what they’re going to do, I can think about what action I’ll take. “Hey, sexy girl,” the man said. I chose to keep walking and not engage him. He said “Sexy girl!” to me two more times. I did not acknowledge his presence and I kept walking.

And last Wednesday, while waiting for a bus home after work at McPherson Square, a man said to me, “God bless your ass! I’ll call your ass!” Having my ass blessed by a random man on the street is a new one.

I wish these men would keep their ignorant thoughts to themselves.

Submitted 10/27/14 by “D.”

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“I Just Wanted to Be Able to Walk Into a Store Without Being Hollered At!”

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“I Just Wanted to Be Able to Walk Into a Store Without Being Hollered At!”

Location: Peets Coffee & Tea at 17th & L NW (Farragut North)
Time:
 Daytime (9:30am-3:30pm)

I feel terrible. I just walked into Peets and let the manager know about the homeless man sitting outside. He’s not disturbing anyone, just reading a book at the table. This man has, in the past, harassed me on several occasions. He’s called me a selfish fat bitch for refusing to give him money when I had a Starbucks cup in my hand. He’s called me a jealous fat bitch when I questioned him for catcalling another woman. Still, the idea that I just further stigmatized homeless by asking management to make him leave..I feel terrible. Is there something else I could have done?

Submitted 7/21/14 by Anonymous.

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Public Masturbation in H Street NE DC: “As I passed him, he starting hissing at me to get my attention.”

Case of public masturbation on H Street, DC
Case of public masturbation on H Street, DC

Location: 8th St between I and H, NE (H Street)
Time:  Morning Rush Hour (5am-9:30am)

I was walking down 8th St this morning on my way to the bus stop on H and 8th. There was a man–white polo, jeans, dark baseball hat–on a bike in the middle of the side walk. He looked a little out of it, but not particularly threatening. As I passed him he starting hissing at me to get my attention. I looked over at him, still not aware of what was going on. He had his penis out and was masturbating.

I started yelling at him: told him I was disgusted, asked him if he had a mother or a sister, etc. He actually seemed shocked that I had gotten angry. He just sat there for a minute and didn’t move while I yelled at him. He only pedaled away when I started yelling about getting the police. I reported him to the MPDC, but I am not sure how much they can really do.

Emphases by CASS.
Submitted 6/24/13 by “KW.”


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If you experience or have experienced sexual harassment on the DC Metro system: Whether the event is happening at the moment or occurred months ago, we strongly encourage you to report to Metro Transit Police (MTP): www.wmata.com/harassment or 202-962-2121. Reporting helps identify suspects as well as commons trends in harassment. Recommended tip: Program MTP’s number into your phone so you can easily reach them when needed.

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