Harassed THREE TIMES in 10 minutes: “I constantly feel threatened & disrespected & scared.”

Location: Georgia Ave, Silver Spring, Wheaton
Time: Evening Rush Hour (3:30pm-7:30pm)

I was walking down Georgia Avenue and and man asked me “where is your boyfriend?” and I said “I don’t have a boyfriend, I’m a Lesbian” and he told me that I “just need some good dick”. He tried to continue to talk to me and remark about my sexuality and when i just kept walking he shouted “YOUR (sic) RUDE”.

A couple blocks later a group of 4 men outside a 7-11 in unison started hollering and shouting at me all together at the same time. I flicked them off (b/c I was still pissed about the first guy) and they shouted even louder at me. Then, I was crossing the street onto Sligo ave and there was no one else around except for this one man who was looking at me and singing “watch out for the white girl, watch out for the white girl”.

This all happened with in 10 minutes! I was wearing bootcut jeans and a sweatshirt!

SHIT LIKE THIS HAPPENS TO ME ALL THE TIME! I constantly feel threatened and disrespected and scared. I have started to carry a concealed weapon that are illegal in the DMV, but I don’t care b/c it gives me a sense of security. I once almost ran over a man with my car b/c he had followed my from my office to my car and tried to get in the car with me, this was literally directly above the wheaton metro.

Submitted on 1/30/13 by “Jossie D.”

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4 Responses

  1. Jay
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    I’ve seen that stuff happen in Wheaton and Silver Spring a lot. It’s something that happens so often, as a male you start to feel desensitized to it. When I first moved in Wheaton, I’d yell and tell guys like that to knock it off, but after a while I got tired of getting into fights with people. I feel for you, and I hope the culture in that town (and some of the surrounding areas) changes. My advice: as ridiculous as it may seem, spend more time in places like Bethesda or even College Park … I don’t know if that’s a viable solution, but my girlfriend seems to have gained some peace of mind after getting out of Wheaton.

  2. D
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    “My advice: as ridiculous as it may seem, spend more time in places like Bethesda or even College Park …”

    That’s pretty dismissive advice. What if the person in this story LIVES in the Silver Spring area?! It’s so easy for you to sit and say “go to other parts of town.” Harassment can happen anywhere, in rich neighborhoods and in poor ones.

    • Jay
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      It’s not at all dismissive; at least I didn’t mean it that way. I lived in Wheaton for five years and saw street harassment on a daily basis. To put it mildly, I was disgusted and unfortunately got into a few physical confrontations as a result. The last of those physical confrontations left me with a broken jaw. Listen, I saw on a first-hand basis how bad it can be in certain areas. I know that street harassment can happen anywhere, but I think there is a real danger in disregarding the idea that such behavior is more prevalent in certain places. It seems that you want to discourage racism or class-based stereotypes, and I’m right there with you, but I think it is equally as dangerous to try to ignore the fact that this happens in Wheaton or Langley Park than it would in, for example, Potomac. If organizations like this one (which I am very supportive and thankful of) focus much of their energies in low-income neighborhoods, I believe that there’s a great deal of change that can be effected. And that’s not to say that wealthy, white men aren’t guilty of harassing women. Of course there are plenty of those kinds of people in every walk of life one can imagine, but my humble opinion is that you should start where there is the greatest problem. How can you possibly consider my thoughts dismissive?

      • D
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        “Listen, I saw on a first-hand basis how bad it can be in certain areas. I know that street harassment can happen anywhere, but I think there is a real danger in disregarding the idea that such behavior is more prevalent in certain places.”

        And you think I haven’t? I have been to Silver Spring and to Wheaton, and have been harassed in both and physically threatened in the latter. But it is not helping the issue by saying that it only happens in those areas. I’ve been harassed in the “nicer” parts too, like Georgetown and the Courthouse/Clarendon area of Arlington. Hell, I was physically threatened in both areas too! It is a disservice to the original poster and to CASS to say that this only happens in certain areas. Harassment can happen anywhere.

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