“I just wanted to get away”

Location: Grand Central in Adams Morgan, NW DC
Time: Late Night (12am-5am)

I was chatting with a group of friends at the bar when this big guy came up behind me and grabbed my waist, trying to dance. I walked away from him, and he pushed me. Maybe ten minutes later, he walks by again and tries to dance. I step away, and he shoves me again. A third time he comes over, holds my shoulders, and shakes me hard. I push his hands off of me and shout, “you need to take your hands off me right now!” and he pushes me again. My friends laughed and told me I had overreacted, and nobody standing around in the crowded bar helped me out. I was so upset that I walked home from Adams Morgan at 2 am, which isn’t super safe. I just wanted to get away. It’s really unnerving to get pushed around by someone bigger and stronger than you. I wish now that I had been able to hurt him in some way — slap him or stomp on his feet — but I realize that’s probably not a very respectful or mature response.

Submitted on 7/14/12 by Anonymous

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5 Responses

  1. Suzanne Horrocks
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    Forget respectful or mature! We DO NOT have to always be nice and polite. I think you would feel better if you took a self defense class. A lot of martial art studios offer it for free.

  2. Alison
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    Oh for the days when it was expected that such behavior would get a man jabbed with a hat pin. We ought to bring back wearing tiny hats just so we can bring back the hatpin!

  3. Julia
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    I’m sorry nobody stepped in to support you! If more people recognized that kind of aggressive, intimidating behavior as problematic, and then DID something about it (calling him out, creating a diversion, asking you if you’re okay, etc.), I think we’d have far fewer harassers thinking they can get away with it.

  4. Heather
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    Maybe you should find some new friends who are able to support you a bit better and don’t laugh at your discomfort.

  5. Elise
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    I’m sorry this happened to you, it’s awful to be made to feel unsafe in a public place, and worse that your friends didn’t support you. You should show this post to your friends – it’s important that people understand why the behavior of this man is never okay. His attitude that women are his to touch and harass is dangerous.

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