“Please behave!”

This event happened over two months ago, but I wanted to share because I think it’s important to show how these types of events can turn out a little better than you think sometimes.

I was on the red line travelling towards downtown. There were two boys of about 13-15 years old sitting across the aisle from me, talking about some girls in a very rude way. One was talking about raping this girl they were talking about, and other objectifying and gross comments. At one point, an elderly man sitting near them got up and moved. Others on the metro did nothing. After the elderly man moved, I thought, “this is enough.” I approached the two boys and asked them to behave since they were in a public place. They tried to play dumb, but I pointed out that others were moving to get away from them and that they should act appropriately in public. They got quiet, and hopefully were embarrassed. Then, one or two stops later, I heard one mutter, “let’s get out of here” and they moved to another car.

I felt proud that at least for that one moment, I was able to influence their behavior.

Submitted by VLM

Location: On the metro (red line)

Time of harassment: Evening Rush Hour (3:30P-7:30P)

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2 Responses

  1. B.
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    Well done. I applaud you, and am delighted to hear they were embarrassed enough to move and leave. It’s almost always the other way around– WE are the ones who move, get off trains, walk different routes, etc. to get away from the inappropriate ones. You reversed the power. Rockstar! : )

    I must say though, the thing that struck me the most about this story was the idea that 2 young teenage boys were casually talking about raping a girl as a way of aggressing upon a female they took exception to. The fact that they saw nothing startling about discussing rape in such a casual way, and in public no less, is extremely troublesome.

    But what’s more troublesome is that it points to the fact that there are men who see rape as an acceptable form of punishment for being a “bitch,” or whatever negative female characteristic they attribute to the girl in question.

    The fact that rape is considered by some to be one way in which you can punish or harm a woman for frustrating or angering them reinforces the fact that rape is not about sex, it is about violence and power.

    Or even if the girl in question wasn’t someone they felt angry toward, even if she was simply someone they had the hots for, consider what that says as well: “That girl I find so attractive? Yeah, I’d love to rape her.” –Suggesting in their minds that sex and rape are somehow synonymous?

    I’m so, so troubled by the reality these boys represent…………….

  2. Omega
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    I’m happy about the outcome but the boys and their comments and mindset are both scary and sad.

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