“I grabbed his wrist, peeled his hand of my arm…”

I was walking home to my apartment which is two blocks from the Clarendon metro station when I passed the Clarendon Grill. A vaguely drunk guy grabbed my arm, wrenched me back towards him, and began painstakingly reciting his phone number at me.

Fortunately, part of what I love about living where I do is the presence of armed guards 24/7 outside a government-related building across the street from the Clarendon Grill, so I knew I could basically do whatever I wanted and the situation wouldn’t really escalate. I grabbed his wrist, peeled his hand off my arm, looked him in the eye and said, “You know I’m not even going to TRY to remember your phone number, right? I don’t go out with guys who grab women on the street,” and kept walking. His friends all died laughing, which I knew was more because “damn, you just told told by a GIRL” rather than “ooh, you deserve to be embarrassed because you don’t know how to behave in public,” but it still felt nice.

He called after me “Can we start over?” I turned around, gave him the middle finger, and kept walking. It was the first street harassment experience I’ve had where I walked away very pleased at my response – but that’s because I always want to get snarky and rude back. I wouldn’t have done it if I wasn’t across the street from police officers and security guards that I walk by on a daily basis, but it was nice that I felt so secure in telling him off.

Submitted by anonymous

Location: Clarendon

Time of harassment: Night (7:30P-12A)

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4 Responses

  1. cathy

    good for you! as long as you feel proud of your response and safe from harm, you’re golden!

  2. Omega

    I know it felt good — BRAVO!

  3. Golden Silence

    The popped collar douchebags that hang around those bars along the Clarendon strip are lame and obnoxious. You handled yourself well.

  4. Azania in me

    You should be careful, you never know when you might come across some really strong guy who’ll knock your little butt out, armed guards or no armed guards across the street. WTF are they going to do?