“I do not know where to begin…”

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I wish I would have known about this website as I am harassed nearly EVERY single time I ride the metro alone. I’m a very small girl, who at 18 could pass for a pre-teen, my style tends to be the reason I am always targeted. . .I dress in very bright colors, but regardless I believe that I should be able to dress as I please without having men of all ages trying to sexually harass me.

I honestly do not know where to begin. . .I’ve had men follow me, pulling out condoms demanding I have sex with them “right here, right now”, I have been fondled and followed. While sitting back and recollecting my memory I can think of one event that bothered me…

I was alone, about to slug (carpool) home from college when I stopped in Mcdonalds at the underground mall in Crystal City for a snack. . .I had a lot of items on me, as I was staying with my boyfriend for a couple days and attending school, then returning home. I was sitting alone at a table minding my business and eating when this older adult came and sat in the booth I was sitting in and started talking to me. Part of me wanted to just get up and walk away, especially when he started talking sexually, and filling his words with tons of sexual innuendos but I was afraid. . .afraid to get up and move, he intimidated me so much. I got these terrible terrible vibes. . .mentally I felt as if I could not leave.
(I have been abducted and sexually assaulted before, I tend to freeze up in situations that remind me of, and make me feel as if the outcome would be the same)

I had no phone, and my ipod touch was about to die, but luckily I was able to send a few texts to my boyfriend from my itouch. I was so afraid, as he started talking about how he wanted to have sex with me, and other disgusting sexual things.

To shorten this, my boyfriend ended up coming, told him he had 3 seconds to get up and leave, and when the man refused to my boyfriend attacked him.

Submitted by RD

Location: Metro, Blue Line

Time of Harassment: Evening Rush Hour (3:30P-7:30P)

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4 Responses

  1. Nigerian Sista

    Wow I am so soory about your experiences on metro. I don’t know what’s going on with metro cause I have been taking metro since age 17 but around 2009 around age 24/25 I noticed so much strange behavior being thrown to me from male passengers and metro employees. It was to the point where I was scared. I stopped taking metro because I couldn’t deal with it anymore and I was so confused because the behavior came from no where and was so aggresive it was like people were working together to terrorize me. I hate to admit but the only way I could keep my sanity was avoidance.

  2. Kat

    Just based on your description of events, I recommend that you look into taking a self defense class, such as Impact DC. It may not be your dress that attracts this, because victims get sized up very quickly based on several factors. A self defense class will help you to project yourself more assertively and reduce this type of incident.

  3. cathy

    how awful for you, i’m so sorry your boyfriend was able to help. you wish the good folks at mcd’s could have figured out you were being menaced.

  4. bob

    dang feel bad for your boyfriend putting himself in danger over you hope he dont get shot