“what the hell?!!”

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About 5 years ago I was leaving a bar in Adams Morgan with a couple of female coworkers. We had a few drinks and were dancing then decided to go to another bar just a block or two away. Admittedly, Adams Morgan is a breeding ground for college-aged or just out of college ex-frat boys but I was with a group of 5 other girls and it wasn’t that late (around 10 pm or so). As we walked along the sidewalk there was a group of about 5 guys who we passed. One of these jerks not just grabbed but also forcefully slapped my butt.

You never know how you’re going to react but my gut reaction was to very loudly yell “what the hell?!!” at this group. They all acted like they didn’t know what happened so I walked back towards them and said “one of you assholes just grabbed my ass”. There was a little back and forth then finally, the guy who did it sort of popped up behind his friends (he was literally hiding behind theM) and sort of put his hands up in an “i’m guilty” way. I told him to go fuck himself and walked to catch up with my friends.

The kicker was when we got to the next bar and were waiting in line to get in, and as I’m still fuming but proud that I stood up to that asshole, a guy comes up and asks if I’m ok, that he saw that something was going on. I told him the story and he stared at me rather blankly. I rather sarcastically told him that while that may seem like a regular occurance/ok thing to do, it’s definitely not. He sort of shrugged and walked away. Ugh. I know to at least always be vocal if someone violates you, as long as you feel that the person won’t try to hurt or violate you further.

Submitted by K

Location:Adams Morgan

Time of harassment: Night (7:30P-12A)

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2 Responses

  1. JT

    I’m sorry you had to experience that. Kudos to you for standing up to that dirtbag! In the 6 years I’ve lived in DC, I’ve learned that, for me, going to Adams Morgan on weekend nights is just not worth it. As a visibly queer person, it just doesn’t feel safe for me, no matter who I’m with.

  2. Nigeria Sista

    Something like that happened to me in Adams Morgan two years ago, and I just stopped going. May not have beent he best way to handle it though. It was a night where I was gettng back to back harassment. I was fatgued by the while ordeal…