“Can you give me a little something?”

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There is a man who is out there most mornings, asking for change. Ironically, he always stands underneath a sign on the wall that says “No Loitering”. I normally go to this gas station to either fill up my tank before I head out to work or to get coffee. Every single time I see him when I walk to the front door of the gas station, he asks everyone to spare him some change, but to me he says “Hey baby, can you give me a little something?”

Countless times, I have asked him to stop asking me, quit talking to me, and have told him that I am NOT his baby. He mumbles an apology, only to say the same thing when I come out of the gas station! When I see him almost every single morning, I also wear a very unusual coat. I have told him to look for my coat, to not talk to me, and to stop calling me his baby. It still happens.

It’s frustrating, but it is the only gas station that is somewhat on my way to work. I tried to ignore it for as long as I could, but it’s just too aggrivating now.

Submitted by anonymous on 2/10/2011

Location: Sunoco Gas Station at 15th and U Streets NW

Time of Harassment: Morning Rush Hour (5A-9:30A)

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5 Responses

  1. M

    Although I am certainly not defending his behavior, many homeless people have severe mental handicaps and diseases such as alzheimers. It is entirely possible that he does not remember you no matter how many times you tell him not to talk to you. As I said – I am not defending his behavior. He should not be calling any women who are passing “baby.” But since he is apologizing, rather than acting entitled to speak to you that way right after you ask him to stop, I suspect that there is something else going on.

  2. Golden Silence

    I agree with M. I do not condone harassment whatsoever, but this man may have mental issues. Maybe you could consider handing him one of those anti-harassment flyers. While he may not remember talking to you everytime you encounter him, maybe having a flyer to remind him about harassment will slowly help him to stop.

  3. Megan

    Maybe consider calling the police – he is loitering in a no loitering area – and asking gas station attendent to do something about him because their allowance of him on their property makes you uncomfortable using their services. The number to the DC Mental Health Homeless Services division is 1-888-793-4357 – they might be able to help get this person off the street. And while panhandling is not outright illegal in DC, there are limits, listed here: http://www.downtowndc.org/programs/homeless-services/facts-about-panhandling

  4. TGEoA

    Is he on private property? Then complain to the buisness owner. If the buisness does nothing, then take your business elsewhere.

    From your side of the story, this guy is doing nothing wrong.

  5. Janna

    How is he not doing anything wrong? Seems to me that he’s panhandling where he shouldn’t, and also making her feel uncomfortable by saying “Hey baby, can you give me a little sumthin’?” It’s not like he’s asking her for change, he’s asking her for something else.