“You look just FINE to me!”

On Sunday, I finished up my run a few blocks from my apartment and began to walk home to cool down. About a block from home, I passed three men sitting on a curb. They smiled at me, and as I passed, sweaty and exhausted, one yelled out, “I don’t think you need to lose weight, baby! You look just FINE to me!”

As if running is just about losing weight, and as if anything I do is about looking good to stupid strangers on the street.

Submitted by Salem Pearce on 6/15/2010

Location: Massachusetts Ave NW between 13th and Thomas Circle

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5 Responses

  1. Golden Silence

    These men need to get a hobby that doesn’t involve checking out women! What losers.

  2. The Specimen

    Wow! This is ridiculous. If an outgoing man finds you attractive, guess what, he’s going to come up and try to talk to you. That’s the way it works. If you don’t like it, wear a burqua. Of course, I suspect it wouldn’t be a problem if it was a guy you thought was attractive doing the approach.

    Btw, there’s a way to shoot a guy down without being an ass just like there’s a way to approach without being an ass. Usually if the guy is shouting insults after you it’s because you were being a bitch.

    • hollabackdc

      there are ways to respect a person’s boundaries and your comment shows that you don’t understand that concept. when one doesn’t want to be harassed by a person regardless of their appearance, a respectful person will honor that, and not hurl insults at you. this may be a hard concept for you to understand, but if you read our blog and talk to many women about this, you’ll get the same response.

    • Froggie

      Not in my experience. If the guy is shouting insults afterwards, it’s because he got shot down, REGARDLESS of how he got shot down. I’ll agree that the girl shouldn’t be rude about it. But last I checked, no still meant no. And some guys (and girls too, for that matter) just don’t understand that concept.

    • Ben

      There’s a difference between a real compliment and harassment. Most “compliments” on the street are truly disrespectful. This example is clearly harassment. Everyone deserves the right to be left alone, here in this case to go out for a run in peace, and what happened shouldn’t be “the way it works.” As to your last comment, I’ve seen an instance and read stories here where women haven’t said a word, but were yelled at because they didn’t respond to the harasser. No one deserves to get treated like this.