“I’ve got to tell you, you are gorgeous.”

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I was walking home from the Potomac Ave metro when a car coming towards me slowed down in the middle of the street. The guy rolled down his window and said “excuse me”, but I continued to walk on and figured if he was asking for directions he’d follow up with a question. Instead, he said, “I’ve got to tell you, you are gorgeous”.

I continued to walk on, and he yelled out “Aren’t you going to thank me?” When I still didn’t respond, he got angry and said “Fine, f*ck you, bitch”. Since when were women expected to be thankful of unsolicited compliments from people they don’t even know or want to know and are trying to ignore?! This isn’t the first time I was expected to thank a stranger for their supposed compliment. A DC street cleaner also got angry that I didn’t thank him in that same neighborhood a few months back.

Submitted by anonymous on 3/15/2009

Location: 14th & D SE

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5 Responses

  1. Golden Silence
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    Years ago, I was looking for a neighborhood to move to and one of the options was around Potomac Ave. Metro. Nothing happened to me, but I just got a funny vibe that I just couldn’t shake.

    From what I’ve read, I’m glad I didn’t move out that way. I feel for you. The entitlement of these men just irks me to no end!

    Since when were women expected to be thankful of unsolicited compliments from people they don’t even know or want to know and are trying to ignore?!

    Exactly! The only men I thank are the ones who treat me with respect – not some random losers on the street!

  2. PR
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    Sometimes I have to wonder… Do these men think they’re just making our day or something? They need to get a clue.

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  4. Leila
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    I don’t understand it either. That’s crazy they have something like this happening in D.C. I had to deal with it at work. A co-worker frequently would say “You are freaking gorgeous.” I tried not to let it bother me until one day I completely ignored him and he was following me around my work area and staring at me. If you seen this fella, he does not look normal at all. Something is not right in his head. Once I reported it, he goes and spreads out the word to co-workers. I thought this would be confidential but the word got out to my co-workers. I find him quite invasive of my bubble. Imagine someone who thinks work is his social life because he is lonely comes to work and bothers you. It’s also partially my fault also because I don’t have the guts or a mouth to say something to him. It puts me on the spot because I am not sure how to handle the situation. Who knows what kind of person this fella is. Could be violent or psycho. I just did not know how to respond so I reported it. Oh my how to act at work. Shoot my anger went sky high. I’m usually cheerful and now my mood is pissed off.

  5. Golden Silence
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    It’s also partially my fault also because I don’t have the guts or a mouth to say something to him.

    Leila, it’s NOT your fault that this guy is a nutjob. And you did do something—you reported him.

    What I suggest you do is document what he does, such as when he comes to your desk (time, date), what he says, document when he follows you, etc. That’ll give HR enough evidence that something needs to be done about him. Best of luck to you.

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