“I’m so sick of this.”

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A couple of weekends ago I went to Arundel Mills alone to pick up a couple of things. I was approaching my car to get in to leave when I heard a voice behind me say “Hey, beautiful”. I turned around to see a black SUV with two men inside. The driver was the one who had addressed me. The SUV was blocking my car from backing out of my space, so I couldn’t just leave.

I turned and the man started asking me if he could have my number to call me sometime. I politely explained that I am married and hoped that would be the end of it (it never is!). He then proceeded to ask me if I would go to happy hour with him and his friend. (Sounds like a really great, safe idea, right? Ugh.) Again, I politely told him that I would not jeopardize my marriage under any circumstances. He kept trying.

Finally I got fed up and just said “Have a nice day!” and turned to get into my car. That was when I heard the driver exclaim “Mmmm! Delicious! What do I have to do to get a mustache ride?” I wish I could say that I had snapped something insulting back at him, but at that point I was quite shaken. Not to mention his vehicle was blocking my only hope for escape and there were two of them and one of me. I wish I had been bold enough to take his picture, but I felt really vulnerable and didn’t risk it.

I am so sick of this. I (naively, obviously) thought that when I got married all I would have to do was flash my left hand and potential harassers would recoil in shame. Not so. Most men do not care if I am married, they will still press the issue. Women should be able to leave their houses without being subjected to this terrorism.

Location: Parking lot by Bed Bath & Beyond at Arundel Mills Mall, Hanover, MD

Submitted by JC

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3 Responses

  1. Brando

    The kind of guy who’d try to pick up a woman in a parking lot likely isn’t the kind of guy who cares whether she’s married. Sadly, while he probably thought he was being incredibly witty, he left an innocent person rattled and probably more than a little fearful.

    Here’s hoping he gets raw fruit thrown at him next time he does that.

  2. ...

    I was discussing something similar the other day, and I think it’s important to note that you shouldn’t be harassed based on whether or not you’re “owned” by another man. It shouldn’t matter whether you’re married or single, old or young, etc. Harassment just plain shouldn’t happen. You didn’t deserve this.

  3. Me

    so he was hitting on you and you got insulted? wow…