Orange Line Thigh Grabber

This morning I was switching from the green line to the orange at L’Enfant Plaza. I get on the train, sit down and a guy sits down next to me. I knew he was up to something right away because there were multiple empty seats. He asks me if I have enough room. I said “yes”. He then slowly inches closer to me as he tells me he doesn’t want me to feel squashed. I scoot closer to the window so he isn’t touching me.

He makes a comment about the weather and asks me if it is supposed to rain. I said “yes, I believe so”. He starts making small talk and while he is not touching me I am a bit suspicious. He asks me where I grew up. I tell him, he says “me too.” He tells me I am very pretty. I say “thank you”. He then asks me how old I am, I tell him. He says, “me too.” He tells me how young I look and then he asks if I would like his number. I say, “no thanks”. So he asks if he can have mine. I tell him I have a boyfriend. He tells me that’s alright, he is engaged but we could just be friends. I say, “no, I don’t know you.” He says “that’s the point, we can get to know each other.” I tell him no thanks again and luckily we are at my stop. Because I am sitting on the inside, he has to stand up to let me out.

As I move out of the seat, I feel his hand graze the inside of my thigh and then I feel him brush up against my ass. My blood boils. I tell him he shouldn’t touch women he doesn’t know and he smiles at me. There are a handful of people on the train and they all just stare. As I get off the train he yells at me to have a nice day. I can’t believe I was sucked in by small talk.

While some may find it faltering to be hit on during their morning commute, no one enjoys a morning groping and it is sexual harassment. Since this happened, I have received criticism from both male and female friends regarding the way I handled the situation. I’ve been told I was “too nice” or that I should have gotten up as soon as he sat down.

Bottom line: he never should have grabbed my thigh.

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4 Responses

  1. SharoninDC
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    I have also been criticized for being “too nice”. However, I still think there is a line between being civil, expecting others to treat you as you treat them, and “being too nice”/”asking for it”. I’m pretty sure we’re not just being “too nice” for the heck of it, or “asking for it”. I agree with your bottom line …we shouldn’t be faulted for behaving like civilized beings, just because others do not return the favor.

  2. Eames
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    What your friends are telling you is bullshit. It’s NEVER the victim’s fault, ever ever ever. If you took their advice, you’d look like a paranoid jerk because you would never talk to or sit next to anyone, since you’d have to treat any stranger that way to avoid harassment. And that’s stupid.

  3. Atiyah
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    This brings back memories of getting my thigh grabbed on the red line years ago. I was sitting on the inside near the window, an older man sat next to me and he started bouncing his leg. I scooted as close as i could to the window thats when his hand started to creep over towards my thigh. He actually kept his hand on my thigh and continued to bounce his leg. I was 19 years old and didnt know how to handle it so I just said excuse me and moved to stand by the doors. I wanted to scream so badly to please stop touching my leg but i was too shocked. I no longer like to sit on the inside near the window because of this.

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